I'm one who listens very closely to people's words and often find that what people say is not often what they do; a lot of people's beliefs do not match their actions.
The language that so many use as of late has become really bothersome; people using the word "you" instead of "I" - removing themselves from themselves. Speaking in general tones as though everyone does it, wants to do it or even understands. Very few people that I've listened to, actually say "I did this." It's always "When you do this." It's this little difference that I think, makes all the difference - it takes away personal responsibility.
I hear people saying how crime is rising and how they wish America was a safe place and why can't things go back to being charming - I hear this especially from people in the mid-west. Yet the number one show in the US and especially in the mid-west is CSI Miami - one of the most violent shows on television. If these people hold the belief that life is too violent, why do they watch it for entertainment and encourage networks to make more shows of the same?
I hear people say how healthcare is terrible in the US (and it is) and how hard it is to stay healthy yet these same people are most likely to be overweight, eat poor foods made up of trans fats, chemicals and other junk and abuse their bodies with diet, alcohol, stress, and general abuse. If they don't like how they get fixed, why don't they try to prevent getting problems? It doesn't match.
I hear people say how they hate how Walmarts are taking over and smaller businesses are going away. I hear this from writers and artists especially who complain about their beloved bookstore closing - yet for the past two years these same people did nothing but shop on Amazon. They want the quaint store but don't support it. Their money isn't where their mouth is.
I hear people complain about corporations, especially Starbucks, and how evil they are. I have a friend who is so anti-Starbucks because of what he thinks they do so he buys his coffee from little stands. Most of these stands under pay their employees, do not give benefits to them either and buy their coffee from places that are destroying the rain forrest. Starbucks, at least, pays their employees well with great benefits, and has many programs in place to keep the rainforrest going and help the people in which their coffee is bought.
I hear people who say they worry about the environment yet drive SUV's, run water like mad, have 17 lights going in their house, shop at Safeway instead of Whole Foods which buys from local farmers, gives back to the community, has so many programs in place for the environment and uses environmentally friendly things in the store (so although some things are more - your money actually goes somewhere and it's one of the top 100 places to work for. Safeway workers strike annually). People who complain about the environment also tend to use bleach, harsh chemicals in the home and make fun of people who actually live pretty clean. Their beliefs don't match their actions at all.
I hear people say what they're going to do, how they're going to do it, and how all their epiphanies will finally become something real. Yet all they do is talk, talk,talk. After reading countless blogs and self-help books they know the lingo and know what to do, it's just the doing that becomes the problem and their problems remain the same.
When I listen closely to what people say and match it against what they do, I often come up disappointed and trusting people less. It doesn't seem to matter anymore if people mean what they say or keep their words or act on what they believe - everyone's just become so used to throwing words around and it's seems to be enough for so many. Too many, I think.
I often find people who speak a foreign language to be more truthful as they haven't learned to lie yet. They speak plainly, truthfully. It seems the more words a person learns, the further from their truth they seem to go - especially if their truth seems inconvenient.
It's not that hard to really put your money where your mouth is. All it takes is being conscious about it. Living life as you mean it. Speaking life as you mean it. Doing life as you mean it.
What a thought.
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